A few weeks ago I saw a movie that dealt with a very patriarchal culture in which women were stuck to do not what they wanted with their lives, but what their husbands wanted them to do. Mental, verbal and physical abuse was the norm and eventually the women are so beat down by all the abuse that they stop fighting for their natural rights, the right to govern their own lives and to do as they please. I am specifically leaving out the specific culture that this movie was about because I don’t want to seem to be pointing a finger at that culture as if to say “you guys are terrible, people!” because I don’t think that’s true. There are many patriarchal societies in the world in which women are meant to shut their mouths and obey the man, whether that be their father, brother or husband. This is not to say that women can’t be abusers either, for that would be a lie. In the movie, the husband at first seemed to be so nice and loving to his wife, only to do a complete 180 and become abusive in a way that it hurt to watch, even beating her in public. Even some of the women that had been born in that culture and knew no better sided with the men in believing women should be submissive and obedient.
I think that we all are individuals and we all have rights to do as we please (as long as it’s lawful, of course) in order to lead rich and happy lives, and I don’t mean rich as in full of money, although that would be nice wouldn’t it? When a person exercises their natural rights you can be rich in that you can have a good connection with your own person and that allows you to connect with others to have meaningful relationships which can only help lead a good existence. If another person claims they love you they should love you as you are and not try to lead or control your life for you, what kind of life is that? It’s not easy to get out of a bad relationship, especially if you are surrounding by people that agree with the bad set-up of one person controlling the other, but as soon as you stop believing that that kind of manipulative behavior is wrong and that you should give in and follow along like everyone else, you’ve lost the fight for life. You deserve to live the life you want to live, it’s out there for you to take, no one should try to bring you down or control you to do only what they think is best. Live your best life, fighting for it is the most heroic thing you can do for yourself, never give up.